R’ Itamar Shwartz
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Defining The Joy of Yom Tov
The unique mitzvah of all three festivals is that we have a mitzvah to rejoice on Yom Tov. Chazal state that the mitzvah of Simchas Yom Tov (joy on the festival) is fulfilled through meat and wine.
Yom Tov is a revelation of our happiness, and it also shows us what makes us happy. The meat and wine only satisfies our nefesh habehaimis, the lower and animalistic part of our souls, but this is not the entire simcha of Yom Tov. It is only needed so that we can give something to our nefesh habehaimis to satisfy it, because if we donâ€™t satisfy it, our nefesh habehaimis will rebel and get in the way of our true, inner happiness.
Therefore, if a person thinks that Simchas Yom Tov is all about dining on meat and wine, he only satisfies his nefesh habehaimis, and he only knows of an external and superficial Simchas Yom Tov. Woe is to such a person!
What is the real happiness of Yom Tov? The possuk says, â€œAnd you shall rejoice in your festival.â€ Our true happiness on Yom Tov is the happiness we have in Yom Tov itself. It is to rejoice with Hashem, Whom our soul is thirsty for. It is from this that we derive the depth of our happiness, on Yom Tov.
â€œThe righteous rejoice in Hashem.â€ When a person lives a life of truth, when he lives a very internal kind of life, his entire happiness is â€œin Hashem.â€ He is happy â€œinâ€ his feeling of closeness with Hashem and with His Torah â€“ the place where true happiness is derived.
So Yom Tov, the time to rejoice, is the time in which we discover the happiness we are used to. It is a time to discover if our main happiness is coming from externalities such as meat and wine (for the men) jewelry and clothing (for the women) and candy (for the children) â€“ or if our happiness is coming from an inner place. It is only inner happiness which satisfies our spiritual needs â€“ our Nefesh HaElokus (G-dly soul).
Yom Tov is thus not just the time in which we rejoice, but it is a time in which we clarify to ourselves what our soul is really rejoicing in. On Yom Tov, we do not just attempt to â€˜connectâ€™ ourselves to happiness, as if happiness is somewhere on the outside of ourselves. The festivals are called regalim, which implies that we reveal from within ourselves where we are habitually drawn towards, where we really are.
When a person never makes this internal clarification â€“ when he never bothers to search himself outside, and he never discovers what truly makes him happy â€“ he is like a dove who cannot find any rest. Yom Tov to him will feel like a time of confusion; he is like the dove who could not find any rest from the mabul (the flood), which is from the word bilbul, confusion.
A person should cleanse himself off from the desires for this worldâ€™s pleasures and instead reveal his thirst for the true happiness.
Making This Assessment
When Yom Tov arrives, the first thing we need to clarify with ourselves is: If Yom Tov really makes us happy.
You should know that most people are not really happy on Yom Tov â€“ not even for one second do they really experience Simchas Yom Tov! [This is not just because the Vilna Gaon says that the hardest mitzvah to keep is Simchas Yom Tov, due to the fact that it is for a 24-hour period lasting for seven days. We are referring to a much more simpler and basic level, which most people do not even reach].
Most people enjoy some moments of relaxation on Yom Tov, but they never reach one moment of true simcha. If someone experiences even one moment of Simchas Yom Tov, he has begun to touch the spiritual light of Yom Tov.
In order to reach true simcha on Yom Tov, we need to remove the various bad habits we have towards the various ambitions we have that are not about holiness. We must remove any â€œthirstsâ€ we may have for things that are not truthful sources of pleasure. When we begin to feel our soulsâ€™ thirst for its source â€“ Hashem â€“ we will find our source of happiness there.
A person needs to discover: â€œWhat makes me happy?â€ If someoneâ€™s entire happiness on Yom Tov comes from meat and wine, then according to Halacha he has fulfilled Simchas Yom Tov; he has made his nefesh hebehaimis happy, but he did not reach the goal of Yom Tov; he did not reach â€œAnd you shall rejoice in your festival.â€ He hasnâ€™t even touched upon the real happiness of Yom Tov.
The three festivals are called the regalim. They have the power to awaken us to spiritual growth, and to know what is making us happy. From knowing that, we are able to continue that very same happiness and extend it into the rest of the year.