The engagement party, a combined vort and lechaim the two events merged on account of frugality, and the exigencies of the Jewish calendar, the three week period before Tisha Bâ€™Av looming ahead, was held at the Silverâ€™s house. This time there were were even more marshmallow skewers and even more paper streamers and a huge banner declaring â€˜Mazal Tov Rahely and Asher.”
The Silvers were all smiles, Rabbi, Rebetzin fourteen children plus another twelve children by marriage and assorted grandchildren in various shapes and sizes
“By me, machutonim are mishpocha,” Rabbi Silver told Nahum as he shook his hand. In her modest but decorous way Rahely dazzled in a salmon pink dress studded with tiny pink sequins and Asher looked happy. Surrounded by his new brothers in law and yeshiva buddies he seemed to glow.
This night marked the culmination of all a year full of phone calls, investigations, prayers .
After the guests had gone home, Molly and Asher sat down with the Silverâ€™s around their dining room table where they discussed when to have the wedding and wear. They agreed on a four week engagement. Once the couple had agreed to be wed it seemed pointless to make them wait.
The next few weeks were a blur of shopping trips Molly running around trying to organize the required gifts for the bride. First she had to find a diamond bracelet and then a diamond engagement ring , a complicated procedure as the diamond is purchased separately from the setting and then must be put together. After that came a leather bound prayer book and psalter with Rahely’s name stamped in gold on the cover.and finally pearl necklace which Asher would give to Rahely at the wedding.
For their part the Silvers presented. Asher with sets of the Talmud, the Code of Jewish Law which arrived in large cardboard boxes. . Following the so called Shabbat out of Hell, the slang moniker for Asher’s first Sabbath visit to the Silvers he came home with an expensive Swiss watch.
“Do they have to do this, “said Nahum.
“Well, it’s become customary.” said Molly.
“No it’s not a mitzvah. It’s a cultural thing and it would be weird to opt out.”
“But how can they afford to buy all this stuff.’
Molly lifted her eyebrows. “Don’t ask me. Iâ€™m not going there.”