One of the reasons non Observant people give for not finding out more about Judaism is that they feel judged.
How are we to understand the pain of being judged when we enter into a relationship with a non Observant Jew?
Is it because at some level we may feel superior because we are observing G-d’s will to a greater degree, and therefore make the other person feel inferior?
Is it because the mere fact that we are observant, makes the person judge themselves as to their own non-observance?
Is it because the teacher-student relationship is inevitably one sided and in regards to Judaism we automatically assume the teacher role, making the unsolicited student feel uncomfortable?
Is it because we believe that G-d judges observant people better through his granting of a better world-to-come for the observant and therefore we feel justified in following what we understand to be G-d’s judgment?
What do you think?
Why do non-frum people feel judged and more importantly, what positive steps can we make to reduce the pain of being judged?