In every mitzvah, there are inherent tensions that make the mitzvah difficult. Slogans like “Just Don’t Speak Loshon Hora” , “Just Have Emunah”, “Always Treat Your Spouse with Honor and Respect” don’t work because there are factions that make Loshon Hora, Emunah and Shalom Bayis difficult. The key is to identify the tensions so that you can deal with them.
Here are some of the tensions in dealing with non-observant friends and relatives:
– You think they’re missing out by not performing Mitzvos
– They think you’re a fanatic in your fulfillment of Mitzvos.
– You’re giving up some physical pleasures for spiritual pleasure.
– They think you are missing out on so much fun in life.
– You think it’s important to keep distance between the sexes and to watch your language.
– They think you’re a puritan.
– You would love them to perform an occasional mitzvah here and there.
– They think you are out to convert them to Orthodoxy.
– You’re happy that you have found a Torah observant way of life.
– They think that you think that you’re better than them.
What are some of the other tensions?
What are some ways to deal with these tensions.?