10 comments on “What Do You Like About Frum Weddings?

  1. I think that the proceesion from the Tish to the Badeken to the Chupah has no parallel in the secular world because as Rambam states in the beginning of Hilcos Ishus, as explained by RYBS, Chupah and Kiddushin are acts of communal approval that necessitate a minyan and kosher edim.

  2. I the 1980s I attended a wedding that cost around $5,000 total (now it might cost $8,000). I liked it very much, and I consider it to be the model for all Jews to emulate.

  3. I love that the purpose of the celebration is for the guests to make the chatan and kallah happy, rather than the other way around. Quite the opposite of secular weddings.

  4. I love the fact that a chasana is a simcha for the whole community. Where else would even non-family members wish each other Mazal Tov? Where else would it be presumptuous to NOT come to a chasana because you did not receive an invitation? Or even come dance at a wedding where you don’t even know the baalei simcha but for the mitzva alone.

  5. I like the ceremony itself best.

    The one thing that would greatly enhance my experience at wedding receptions would be to limit the band’s loudness to OSHA-compliant levels.

    The typical volume seems to be somewhere between “jackhammer” and “discotheque” among the examples shown here:

  6. Most educated Orthodox Jews know there is no “codified” Halacha that demands separate seating at weddings. (at least I hope most know this). Yet, separate seating is so prevalent at Orthodox weddings. why? what purpose does this serve? Tznius? …really?

    I love Jewish weddings and I think everyone would agree that a mechitza for gender separated dancing is required..but I pray that frum Jews will realize that swinging the Hashkafic “pendulum” back left does not mean giving up one scintilla of Halacha.

  7. The best part is the schmorg.

    Ok, fine. The best part is probably the true feeling of simcha. Not just from the bride/groom, but from everyone there. I know this sounds sappy, but it is rare these days to find yourself in a room or wedding hall with 200+ people who are ALL HAPPY to be anywhere.

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