Building â€œhigher wallsâ€ is a hishtadus implemented in many communities in Klal Yisroel. It’s a hishtadlus that many FFBâ€™s and BTâ€™s put a good deal of their precious trust in to keep their kids on the derech.
But, no hishtadlus, however worthy, can â€œmakeâ€ anything happen or guarantee a result. G-d alone made, makes and will make all happenings (Rambam Thirteen Principles of Faith #2). G-d is the One & Only Source of every seemingly independent power, and every seemingly effective hishtadlus (#â€™s 2 & 3 of the Six Constant Mitzvahs).
If you trust in Hashem while making a histadlus, He will requite and fulfill that trust in Him. Whereas if you repose your trust in anything elseâ€”-such as building higher wallsâ€”- Hashemâ€™s system is to remove His Divine Providence and let â€œnature run its courseâ€. The very thing you trusted in will be the â€œcauseâ€ of your frustration, disaster, loss etc and your trust in it will be unrequited.(Heard from Rabbi Avigdor Miller ztl)
There is a lot of emphasis placed on building higher walls but insufficient emphasis on filling the confines of those walls with a meaningful, loving and rewarding relationship with Hashem. Instead the confines of those higher walls continue to be filled with externalities based upon social/cultural conventions that are mistakenly confused with genuine Avodas Hashem.
Is it any wonder then that the hishtadlus/strategy of higher walls is failing regardless of what community is being discussed?