For the last several years I have not had to face being around my family during any of the chagim because I had lived in Israel. Saying no to attending family holidays, for many people it is an extremely difficult burden to face. How do you say no when it is family? But how can you say yes to the Pesach Family Seder that lasts about 15 minutes and the Rosh Hashanah Meal both First and Second Night that isnâ€™t kosher or Sukkot Chol Hamoed Lunch that isnâ€™t in a Sukkah even when it isnâ€™t raining.
It is so hard because we love our family and we bend over backwards not wanting to alienate them from frumkite, chas vâ€™shalom. But lets face itâ€¦knowing that the chagim are all about our relationship with HaKadosh Baruch-Hu and we just canâ€™t get â€œthereâ€ to the loftiest of places in a home where there isnâ€™t Kiddushaâ€¦or at least the brand of Kiddusha we need especially on a Yom Tov.
So how do you get out of the holiday of Thanksgiving? It never falls on a Shabbat…ok and it isnâ€™t a Yom Tov… no problem there. The truth is, at least for me, Turkey-Day is the one holiday I donâ€™t want or need to â€œget out ofâ€. This year, for the first time in many years, I was able to and did attend the Family Thanksgiving Dinner. So here is my Survivors Guide, really short version, to spending Thanksgiving (or July 4th, Memorial Day, Labor Day, New Years Day fill in the blank __ Day) with your family.
It is really important that you are able to do the most important thing on Thanksgiving and that is of course EAT. Waking up early on Thanksgiving, my kosher turkey went in the oven. Quickly the house was filled with all the smells of my childhood. I made everything I needed to feel good at the table…
I was able to sit next to my cousins (of course still at the childrenâ€™s table) and stuff my belly with yummy Thanksgiving delicacies. I even had enough leftovers at home in the fridge to feel very American on â€œBlack Fridayâ€. The mashed potatoes were my â€œcontributionâ€ to the cornucopia feast. Of course they were parve. I couldnâ€™t bring the traditional buttery potatoes to set along side the table of turkey and spiral-cut-you-know-what!
At the end of the evening as we all reclined in our chairs, everyone wanted to know how I made the yummy dilled mashed fluffy stuff. They were all stunned to hear about my secret to make them creamy with out milk or butter (margarine and light mayonnaise). Smiling to myself I thought of my own theory. They tasted so yummy because they were the only kosher thing on the tableâ€¦of course other than my shiny aluminum pan, double wrapped foil peeled back filled with all the essentials: half a turkey breast, a mini portion of yams with marshmallow, challah stuffing, string bean casserole and of course parve mashed potatoes. FYI â€¦ you can follow the Libbyâ€™s Pumpkin Pie recipe on the label but instead of condensed milk, replace with soy milk and Richâ€™s cream frozen.
Originally Posted in the Birth Months of BBT in Dec 2005