The Jews Are Taking Over

I had an interesting experience this morning.

I drove my son to a town about 20 minutes away to take his road test. When we arrived I had to get out of the car and wait outside. I decided to walk into the nearby Mobile station to use the Men’s room. The room was situated inside the building, but down a short hall off to the side of a food kiosk. When I came out of the bathroom I said a blessing under my breath and then headed the ten feet down the hall to the kiosk. And there, just before I turned the bend, was a man telling the Indian lady behind the counter taking his order, “The Jews are taking over.”

He was a 50ish, graying, well-dressed man and as he said the words “taking over” I emerged from the hall. He obviously didn’t realize I was there until that moment and looked a bit mortified for a moment when he saw me.

I didn’t have time to react. In that flash of a second I think I considered all the alternatives between just walking past him silently to cursing him out. What I ended up doing was saying very cooly the following: “Well, thanks for telling me that. I didn’t know.”

And I walked past.

Later, when I saw my son return, I walked out of the kiosk and saw this guy getting into his car. It was a very nice luxury car. Mine is a beat-up economy car. But I’m taking over the world.

In any event, I’m not naive. Believe me, I’m well aware of anti-Semitism. However, this is the first time I’ve experienced it directly in more than ten years, as best as I can remember.

I don’t necessarily have anything more the say now other than relating that.

On the other hand, it is interesting that just yesterday I heard Rabbi Orlowek on a tape talk about how he reacted to a couple of incidents of anti-Semitism directed at him: “As long as it doesn’t touch me it’s his problem, not mine… I know I have something inside. A Jew who does not have any connection to Judaism [gets terribly upset, on the other hand]…. It’s like a person who walks into a store to buy something, puts money down on the counter and walks out. It’s a terrible feeling: to pay money and walk out without the merchandise. [Being Jewish but having no connection to Judaism] is analogous to putting money down and not walking out with the product. I have the product. I know I have to ‘pay.’ I’m not crushed over the fact that they don’t like me. Because I know I have something. It’s true I’m paying a price. But I have something. I have the product.”

I don’t know if I lived up to this madrega this morning that Rabbi Orlowek talks about. I think I was a little incensed. Maybe a little more than a little. And certainly it reminds one of countless mussar shmeussim about how insecure the Jew is in the world; how Esav hates Yaakov, even as he dresses in a nice suit and acts politely toward you; how thin is the membrane separating us from real anti-Semitism; how we have to remember we only have our Father in Heaven to rely upon. And so forth.

But it was unnerving. At least for a moment. Baruch Hashem I have Rabbi Orlowek to listen to. Baruch Hashem I have him to remind me that I have the product. And that even though it comes with a price it’s better to have the product than not.

Baruch Hashem we lived blessed lives, much more secure than our great grandparents. May we never forget that and may Hashem continue to protect us and consider us having paid for and earned that protection.

The Torah Teminah on “In the Place that Baalei Teshuva Stand…”

Today’s Daf Yomi from the gemorra in Taanis (27) says that the Anshei Maamad shouldn’t fast on Sundays because after eating on Shabbos fasting is too severe.

R’ Moshe Schwerd, a Kew Gardens Hills Daf Yomi Maggid Shiur, brought down the Torah Teminah from his Sefer Tosefes Beracha. He says this is the reason that one who eats on Erev Yom Kippur is credited as if he fasted for two days. After eating, the fast of Yom Kippur becomes that much harder to keep and that is also why Rashi says one should eat a lot on Erev Yom Kippur.

The Torah Teminah goes further and uses this principal to explain the gemorra in Berachot (33B) which says “Makom she-baalei teshuvah omdim, tzaddikim gemurim einam omdim sham”, -“In the place where Baalei Teshuva stand, Perfect Tzaddikim do not stand there.” Since Baalei Teshuva have partaken of that which is forbidden it makes staying away from it that much harder and therefore when they do Teshuva, they stand in a place where Perfect Tzaddikim do not.

OHEL is Looking for Homes for Foster Children

OHEL is looking for a long term or pre-adoptive foster home for a foster child, Judah. Judah has been in foster care since the age of three. When Judah was nine, he was moved to a residential setting in order to best help him with certain psychiatric and emotional issues. He is doing very well at the residence and they have decided that it’s time for him to be placed in a home.

Judah is 12 years old. He is very sweet and loving. He is very charming and engaging. He has significant learning disabilities but he is very smart. He has an inner strength that is hard to describe. He has dealt with adversity in a way that is simply inspiring.

But like any little boy, Judah needs a lot of love. Two of Judah’s siblings have been adopted and Judah longs for a family like they have. He needs attention, structure and stability. He needs a home. He needs a family.

If you are interested, or if you know anyone who is interested, you can either email one of his previous foster parents at emansouth@aol.com or contact Shulamit Marcus at the homefinding department at Ohel at 718-851-6300. Attached is an article with more information written by his previous foster father.

If you do not feel that you or anyone you know is able to meet Judah’s needs; please consider opening your own heart and home to another young person in need of foster care – and please also talk to your friends, family members and neighbors about doing the same. Ohel is constantly searching for foster families in the metropolitan area who can provide foster children with a loving and nurturing home. There is a particular need for families in Brooklyn. Please call Shulamit Marcus at 718-851-6300 for more information.

Aish/Discovery Releases “Inspired Too — Kiruv Across America”

Inspired Too is premiering this weekend. Aish has also set up a great site, Kiruv.Com, with a wealth of Kiruv material.

By Yosef Gesser

It has been a little over a year since Aish HaTorah released its highly acclaimed film “Inspired,” which was seen by thousands in major communities nationwide. The film featured several prominent baalei teshuvah from a variety of backgrounds who related how they became connected to Yiddish-keit. These individuals testified that despite the success they had attained in their careers, they had become disenchanted with the path their lives were taking and had begun searching for more fulfillment in life.

These in-depth interviews, which included well-known personalities such as Rabbi David Gottlieb and Rabbi Leib Keleman, who have had an enormous impact in bringing others closer to Torah, clearlt demonstrated how receptive secular Jews are to learning about Judaism. It opened the eyes of the target audience — people who are frum from birth (FFB) — and made them aware of the latent potential of our as-yet-nonobservant brethren, what their mindset is and how the frum world can play a vibrant role in reaching out to them.

“Inspired Too — Kiruv Across America,” the sequel to the first “Inspired” presentation, is the brainchild of Rabbi Yitz Greenman, the executive producer of the film. Rabbi Greenman reports that “Inspired” was enormously successful in conveying the message that kiruv is both doable and effective. Yet many people question if they are capable of doing it.

The new presentation will address that question by telling the other side of the story. It will focus on the perspective of numerous individuals who grew up in the Torah world and have actively taken the step of reaching out to their estranged fellow Jews.

Viewers will have the unique opportunity to see and hear first-person accounts from people like themselves, from their own communities, who have hands-on experience in doing kiruv. They will learn that these people derive satisfaction not only from having effected positive changes in the lives of fellow Yidden, but in their own lives as well.

Rabbi Yaakov Salomon, who co-produced the film, is a well-known figure in the Torah world and as a senior lecturer for the celebrated Discovery Seminars has had a tremendous impact on thousands worldwide. He is keenly aware of the tremendous strides Aish and other kiruv organizations have made in bringing countless people into the fold over the last thirty years, since the advent of the teshuvah movement.

Yet, despite the success that he and other kiruv activists have had, Rabbi Salomon bemoans the fact that so much more remains to be accomplished in order to reach the more than five million secular Jews in the United States and more than ten million worldwide who are ignorant of their heritage.

Rabbi Salomon is greatly optimistic about the impact the new presentation is expected to have on the tens of thousands of frum Jews who are needed to address the spiritual conflagration that plagues Klal Yisrael. In his words, it will be “more dramatic, emotional, much funnier” than the previous film. Attendees should be prepared to “laugh a little and cry a little, and bring a box of tissues,” he says. Above all, the film “will awaken people to do something to assist their brothers and sisters spiritually.”

Rabbi Salomon is quick to point out that this call to action regarding kiruv doesn’t mean viewers are being asked to dratically go out of their way to influence other Jews. It could be as simple as speaking to a neighbor or someone next to you on line at the store.

“People can be moved to get involved if they see it as part of their calling,” says Rabbi Salomon. “The kiruv organizations can’t do it alone.” One of Aish/Discovery’s senior lecturers who is featured in “Inspired Too” is Rabbi Eliyahu Bergstein. Rabbi Bergstein is a veteran marbitz Torah, having taught in yeshivos in Brooklyn and delivered shiurim for baalei batim prior to getting involved in kiruv at the suggestion of a rabbi he met while visiting Edmonton, Alberta, Canada several years ago. He originally undertook to teach the popular Torah Codes class, which led to his teaching other classes for Aish/Discovery.

In view of his background, he is in a unique position to understand why some members of the heimishe olam may not react positively to overtures encouraging them to get involved in kiruv. His response reflects the reality that there are enormous advantages for them in doing outreach.

One reason, Rabbi Bergstein explains, why some in the frum olam may be hesitant to talk to others about Yiddishkeit is that they are afraid of being asked questions they are not capable of answering, such as those pertaining to deep theological issues like the existence of G-d, Creation, evolution and proofs that the Torah is true. Rabbi Bergstein says such questions are rarely asked. Secular Jews by and large ask questions that are much more elementary and that the average frum individual is generally equipped to answer.

In the event that advanced inquiries are raised, one can respond, “I don’t know the answer, but I will be more than happy to look into this and get back to you.” Such a response is very appropriate since, in addition to ultimately providing an answer, it demonstrates that the frum individual is taking a sincere interest in this person and his inquiry and is willing to pursue the matter.

Secondly, in the event one doesn’t know how to respond, he should view the question as a valuable opportunity to find out the answer for his own benefit. Utilizing such an opportunity to add to one’s own storehouse of Torah knowledge is an illustration of the well-known principle “Mitalmidai yoser mekulam,” meaning that questions from one’s students serve to stimulate his own growth in Torah and ruchnius, says Rabbi Bergstein. When one is forced to focus on yesodos of Yahadus such as Torah min haShamayim, the role of Torah sheb’al peh, and the meaning of Shabbos, he gains a sense of clarity. There are valid, compelling answers to challenging questions.

Rabbi Bergstein offers another powerful motivation for people to engage in outreach by offering a perspective of Chazal concerning kiruv and influencing others. “Kol hamekayem nefesh achas b’Yisrael ke’ilu kiyem kol haTorah kulah — Anyone who spiritually saves one Jewish person is credited as having fulfilled the entire Torah” is one such statement.

Additionally, in our times, when people are constantly searching for segulos for effecting refuos, finding a shidduch, obtaining parnassah and yeshuos in numerous other areas of nisayon, our Sages offer timely advice which may not be familiar. The Gemara in Bava Metziah 85a relates, “Kol hamelamed es ben am haaretz Torah, afilu Hakadosh Baruch Hu gozeir gezeirah, mevatlah bishvilo,” meaning that teaching someone who lacks Torah knowledge has the power to nullify evil decrees.

This is based on a passuk in Yirmiyahu 15: “V’im totzi yakar mizolel kefi si’hiyeh, yashuvu heimah eilecha…” This indicates that one who brings out the best in someone who is spiritually lacking will be like Hashem’s mouth, as it were; he is, in effect, viewed by Hashem as His “spokesman” in leading that person to Torah, and as such, is worthy of Hashem’s blessings.

Some people may be reluctant to teach others, wondering how far-reaching the results will be. They may wonder if it’s worth their time and energy. To counter this erroneous perception, Rabbi Bergstein cites the first perek of Pirkei D’Rabi Eliezer, which describes how Eliezer ben Hyrcanus, a young man ignorant of Torah in his late twenties, approached Rabban Yochanan Ben Zakkai to teach him such basics as Shema and tefillah.

The future Rabi Eliezer, however, was not satisfied with this, for he aspired to greatness in Torah. Rabban Yochanan persevered in teaching him and Rabi Eliezer eventually became his prize talmid.

While the growth of Rabi Eliezer is naturally impressive, it is especially significant that Rabban Yochanan, the Gadol Hador, didn’t delegate instruction of such an elementary nature to others but undertook the task himself. From this we see the value of such an agenda, says Rabbi Bergstein. If someone desires to learn, we must accommodate him.

Another individual active in kiruv whose activities serve as a source of inspiration for others is Mr. Jonathan Ehrman of Passaic, whose valiant efforts are spotlighted in “Inspired Too.” To illustrate the influence a layman can have on people’s lives, he relates the story of a young man, then a student at Einstein Medical School, with whom he was learning a number of years ago on a one-on-one basis at Lincoln Square Synagogue in Manhattan.

Thanks to his influence, the young man gradually starting keeping mitzvos and eventually fully embraced a life of Torah. Ultimately, he married a young frum woman who was also a student at Einstein. Today he is a doctor who lives in Monsey with his wife and six children, thanks to the efforts of Mr. Ehrman.

Openings for kiruv are readily available, points out Mr. Ehrman. Whether you are on line at the store or on a plane flight, you need to cultivate the mindset that Hashem is sending you opportunities every day. It can take the form of an invitation for a Shabbos meal; or it can be as simple as being stopped before Chanukah by a secular person who asks where to purchase Chanukah candles, and taking advantage of the situation to give a brief dvar Torah and other information about the upcoming festival.

Mr. Ehrman relates that members of the Passaic community have been very active in reaching out to unaffiliated Jews in the area. Ultimately, their contributions became part of the Project Inspire initiative that has been launched by Aish HaTorah in many communities nationwide.

Mr. Ehrman notes that his work to propel others along the road to Yiddishkeit has contributed greatly toward making him a better Jew and has provided chinuch opportunities for his childen, who have surely gained from sharing their Torah knowledge with guests who visit their home on Shabbos.

The new film will include a message from Harav Nosson Tzvi Finkel, shlita, Rosh Yeshivas Mir in Yerushalayim. The Rosh Yeshivah’s participation in this project drives home the importance he attaches to kiruv rechokim.

A message will likewise be offered by Harav Noach Weinberg, founding Rosh Yeshivah of Aish HaTorah and the guiding force for all of its programs worldwide.

The producers point out that there is an element of koach hatzibbur at work when people view such a presentation together. This gives them the opportunity to discuss the inspiration and ideas they have gleaned and galvanizes them for action.

To purchase tickets for the film or to volunteer to assist at screenings, call 1-800-SHABBAT (742-2228).

Don’t miss this special opportunity to be “Inspired!”

Conflicting Emotions

On Sunday afternoon, I stood on a hillside in a cemetery as my great aunt’s coffin was lowered into the earth. At 93 years-old, she was the last of her siblings to pass away and thereby close a chapter in our family’s history.

I have such conflicting emotions about the events on Sunday because I was very close to my great aunt who was an exemplar of kindness and hakaras hatov. She was a person who was a source of encouragement to others because she was continually happy and only spoke about the good points of others.

I think, however, that my conflicting emotions about Sunday stem from the fact that I cannot simply go to a funeral without becoming extremely agitated with the unconventional way funerals are handled in my family. Five years ago, one of my great-aunt’s older brothers passed away, was cremated, and his ashes were scatted in a Jewish cemetery on the graves of his parents and brother and sister. I was so incensed about this idea at the time and felt helpless because I had absolutely no say in what happened. This pain was coupled with the knowledge that my own grandfather had been cremated as well.

With these experiences in my past, I walked into the Jewish funeral home on Sunday to be greeted with a funeral featuring an open casket. To make things worse, there was a half-hour before the service began and family members and friends gathered around the open casket cried, hugged, and even engaged in idle chit chat. I was horrified at the sight of people standing with their backs to an open casket and laughing with their friends. I wanted to scream at the lack of respect these people were displaying. But, I remained silent. Who was I, only a grand-nephew, to make a scene in front my great-aunt’s children and grand-children while she lay in the room before us? In reality, what could I have done?

At the cemetery, I helped carry her coffin. My great aunt’s son was across from me on the other side and began to ask me about my family; making me uncomfortable as we carried his mother to her final resting place. Once again, this sacred moment was shattered by small talk.

I threw a shovel full of earth on my great-aunt’s coffin, as is tradition, and went over to give words of comfort to her son. I told him that not only is his mother now together with his father, but that I also remembered that there were other family members buried in this cemetery. I told him that that now she is also together with her parents and her brothers and sister; that she has left one family and has returned to another. He responded, “They are also buried here?” When I explained that they are buried at another cemetery, he quickly added, “Oh, you mean together in a metaphysical way.”

I drove home with this comment echoing in my mind since I perceived that he used the word “metaphysical” in place of “make believe” or “hocus pocus”. I lamented the fact that in today’s society that many people have lost the ability to take the concept of a neshoma returning to its source in a literal manner. I reflected on how many sacred moments that I have witnessed in recent months that were marred by unthinking people; a bris in which people stood taking pictures with their camera phones over the mohel’s shoulders; a wedding where members of the wedding party complained about being hungry and continually inquired when they would get to eat; and now this, sons standing with their backs to their mother’s body while they laughed and engaged in small talk.

I have no more words. Perhaps I do not belong on this planet any more.

This article was first posted on A Simple Jew’s site.