In leading a life of Torah there are two pursuits: eliminating the negative and increasing the positive. These two avenues apply both to the individual and the community. On Beyond Teshuva the primary focus has been on the problems we have, the negative situations we face, and the ways that we can cope and change them. The risk we run by focusing on the problems is that we might start to view our friends, communities, institutions and life situations through a negative lens which is contrary to Torah. In her article on What Destroys Societal Trust, Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller makes the following point regarding Loshon Hora:
Loshon hara is so terribly destructive because it conditions those who speak it and those who hear it to frame reality negatively. The cumulative effect of a lifetime of speaking loshon hara are the kinds of elderly people who are so miserable and embittered that they don’t have a good word to say about anyone, including themselves, their bodies, and their lives. We all know such people. When you ask, “How are you?†they reply, “How should I be?â€
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